I'm wondering how anyone can make ends meet right now. I have a good education (graduate degree), no student loans, I feel like I've worked really hard and continue to work hard, I have a good steady job, and I run several side-hustles that bring in a little extra money. I feel like I've lived a pretty modest lifestyle as an adult. I have only a couple of really nice things - that one guitar I have and my amp. Everything else I own is modest by USA standards: my PC is old and I got it 2nd hand, my house was only as much house as I needed at the time I bought it, my car is super modest, my bicycle is one of those entry-level ones, I still use a flip phone. Pretty much everything else that I have that sounds cool to have I've built myself.
But my stupid idea of buying a 2nd hand EV might have totally put my finances in the toilet. The damned thing keeps breaking and I certainly can't figure out how to fix it. The mechanic at the dealer whence I bought it obviously can't figure it out, either - at least I assume, because the only other option is that they're milking me at this point. I spent the last three days calling around, and every shop either says that they can't fix an EV, or that it'll be 30+ days before they'll even get to pop the hood open. The guy I spent the most time talking to - he said he knows a lot about EV's, but the second time I corrected him that I don't have a Prius, I lost faith in the guy.
Looking at car prices now, I sure as hell can't afford a new car. If I buy another used one - well, the last two used cars I've owned cost me more in constant repairs than it would have cost me to get a new car - plus, at least around here, they're almost as much as new cars anyway. I live in the middle of nowhere. We're lucky enough to have a bus, but, the latest it'd drop me off at work is >2 hours before I start and the latest it'd pick me up from work would be 3 hours before I'm done. It's only like a 7-8 minute drive, so I tried walking, and it's actually great when the weather's nice, for the first day. I tried thinking I could catch the bus in and walk home, but then I didn't see the damned bus come by, so I ended up walking anyway. By the third day, my legs are killing me, because there are too many hills. I'm getting too old. I also don't love the idea of spending all of my free time M-F commuting.
Right now my stupid car is back at the dealer. I have no idea if they'll even bother looking at it any more. They won't even tell me at this point. I paid $80 to have it towed there based on a pretty stupid misunderstanding. At least that's a relatively great deal on towing, if you ignore the fact that it was towed there for no actual reason.
All that time I was so happy not to be stuck working at home because my job is "essential," but now it's potentially just a matter of time before I'm stuck working from home because I'll be too poor to have my own transportation and too stupid not to move to a place where winters are -40° and steep hills covered in ice.
I think I'm just boned now.
I know it probably wasn't supposed to, but for some reason this detail drove home, or well punctuated, the rest of your story.I still use a flip phone
Tell me you bought the gap insurance? I had gap save the day twice on shitty loans and being smacked by drunks.My heart goes out to all of you struggling with the cost of living right now.
I bought a fairly new 2019 car last year, I wouldn't say I regret it because it enables me to go to work, but making payments on this thing is really breaking the bank. On top of this, I still haven't recovered from the financial hole an injury combined with some less-than-stellar depressed decision making caused around new year's. My landlords are super cool about my whole situation, but it feels like I'm not even struggling to stay afloat anymore, feels like I'm just sinking really slowly. I have zero intention of getting this car repossessed, I'm paying the fucking thing off if it kills me, but there's room for little else in my life right now and it really weighs on me to think about 5.5 more years of this.
Thanks. It's been a long time coming, I guess.ooof.... sorry to hear that man.
I'm 99.99999% sure my marriage of twenty-two years ended this weekend. I got an ultimatum I couldn't comply with. I'm so tired and broken at this point, I can't even really be mad anymore. Just drained and sad.
Thanks. It's been a long time coming, I guess.
Funny thing. My grandpa once told me men after his generation in our family aren't capable of making it twenty-five years in marriage. It seems it's rung true for all of us thus far. Thanks, gramps.
Yeah, I consider it both a good and a bad sign that I already feel a slight sense of relief, just knowing that I've started the process of extricating myself from her. It fucking sucks, 'cause I do love her, but there have been so many false accusations thrown my way at this point, and now intricate analysis, nightly mind you, of every moment we've shared and telling me how I was cruel even in the early days, when she never said a word about it until the last few months.My condolences, man. I've been through two divorces now, one from a really long relationship (though not quite 22 years). They were both also a long time coming. It's been my experience that ultimatums are generally the deathknell of relationships. When one person feels they need to communicate in that way, trust is likely irreparably broken long hence.
Soon you'll get to enjoy the relief of not having the impeding doom of everything you've obviously been dealing with. I know that was a big relief for me, though bittersweet to let go of things I had clung to so tightly. I still wake up angry, rehashing arguments with my second ex-wife sometimes, though it's slowly fading.
So sorry to hear! I hope your little guy pulls through and you 2 get to spend many more years together.My kitty cat is very sick, he is at the vet over the weekend with acute kidney disease. He might not make it at all, and either way I'm looking at up to $2000 in vet bills and very likely a reduced life expectancy for my beautiful baby boy. Though at this point I won't look a gift 3-5 years in the mouth when I am staring down the possibility that he could be euthanized by Monday.
I have some good support, his mom/my ex is pitching in, some family members and friends are pitching in too, I'm selling my 4x12 to a buddy, and I'm throwing all of the gear I can possibly sell on craigslist. I'm still really worried, and it's making me really sad. Got really stoned and cried a bunch earlier, planning on getting really stoned and crying more later also.
Please keep my beautiful baby boy in your thoughts.
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