Hi folks, female here. Been raped before too. (after a show no less, though not by a band member.) Just a friendly reminder that all this blind speculation, and siding against (albiet under the guise of the whole "innocent until guilty" thing, your biases are clear) her because of said speculation, is exactly why I tried killing myself before (reluctantly) telling anyone. Coming forward about rape isn't fun. I still hate talking about it. I hate remembering it. I hate seeing people give such a large benefit of the doubt to the accused, while treating the accuser as suspect. Let the courts do their thing and don't talk about how "some women" like to make stuff up out of the blue. True or not, (surprise, men do it too) you don't know her and as such you should probably err on the side of caution and not speak in such a way that might scare anyone in the future from sharing what happened to them. Remember that you, and everyone, has spectators. People like me, or her, are always watching and listening. I'm not confident I would come forward in the future either judging by how I was treated the last time. Take this perspective how you will.